There is an art to hosting that goes far beyond the food you serve or the wine you pour. The truly memorable gathering is one where guests feel genuinely welcomed, where the atmosphere encourages connection, and where the host appears relaxed enough to actually enjoy their own party. At Bisous Bisous, we believe that beautiful objects and thoughtful preparation are the foundations of effortless entertaining.
Setting the Scene
Before your guests arrive, your home should feel ready to receive them. This does not mean clinical perfection—a space that appears too pristine can feel unwelcoming. Rather, aim for warmth and intention. Fresh flowers on the table, candles ready to be lit, music playing softly. These small touches signal to guests that their arrival has been anticipated with pleasure.
Consider the journey through your home. The entrance should offer a warm welcome; the gathering spaces should invite lingering. Clear surfaces of clutter, but leave out conversation pieces—a beautiful book, an interesting object collected on travels. These give guests something to explore and discuss.
The Art of the Table
Your table setting communicates volumes before a single dish is served. A well-laid table speaks of care and occasion, elevating even the simplest meal into something special. Begin with linens—whether crisp white for formal occasions or relaxed, textured linen for casual gatherings.
Layer your place settings thoughtfully:
A charger plate as foundation, adding depth and visual interest
Quality ceramics that feel substantial in the hand
Glassware that catches the light—wine glasses, water glasses, perhaps a champagne coupe
Elegant cutlery with pleasing weight and balance
Linen napkins, either neatly folded or casually gathered in a ring
Creating Atmosphere
Lighting transforms everything. As evening falls, switch off harsh overheads in favour of table lamps, candlelight, and perhaps fairy lights if the mood calls for it. The soft, flattering glow of candlelight makes everyone look and feel better—there is a reason it has been the dinner party standard for centuries.
Music should support conversation, not compete with it. Create a playlist in advance—something that sets the tone without demanding attention. Begin with something livelier as guests arrive and energy is high, then transition to mellower sounds as the evening deepens.
The Relaxed Host
The single most important element of successful hosting is your own demeanour. Guests take their cue from you—if you are stressed and harried, they will feel uncomfortable. If you are relaxed and enjoying yourself, they will feel free to do the same.
The secret to appearing relaxed is preparation. Choose a menu you can execute confidently, with as much done in advance as possible. Set your table hours ahead. Have drinks ready to pour the moment guests arrive. Then, when the doorbell rings, you are free to welcome them properly rather than rushing between tasks.
Intimate Dinners vs Larger Gatherings
Different occasions call for different approaches. An intimate dinner for four allows for elaborate place settings and precise timing. Larger gatherings require a more relaxed format—perhaps a beautiful spread where guests can help themselves, or dishes passed family-style around the table.
For bigger parties, create multiple zones where smaller conversations can flourish. Ensure seating is available but not rigidly arranged. Keep drinks accessible so guests need not trouble you for refills.
The Small Touches
Fresh hand towels and a scented candle in the bathroom
A designated space for coats and bags
Non-alcoholic options presented with equal care
A small something for guests to take home—leftover cake wrapped prettily, a few flowers from the arrangement
Temperature considered—throws available if the evening turns cool
Beautiful entertaining need not be complicated or expensive. It requires only intention—the deliberate creation of an atmosphere where people feel welcome, comfortable, and glad they came. With the right pieces and a little preparation, anyone can become the sort of host whose invitations are always eagerly accepted.
